Book Review | The Grown Woman’s Guide to Online Dating by Margot Starbuck @thomasnelson @margotstarbuck #Christiandating #nonfiction #onlinedating #tlcbooktours

Hello Readers! I have a new nonfiction book to share today. I’m joining my friends at TLC Book Tours for the blog tour of The Grown Woman’s Guide to Online Dating: Lessons Learned While Swiping Right, Snapping Selfies, and Analyzing Emojis by Margot Starbuck. Thank you to the author and publisher for the review copy.

Genre: nonfiction, self help

Published: August 11, 2020

Source: TLC Book Tours

My Thoughts:

Dating, whether online or in real life requires bravery, flexibility and being open minded.

The title of this book intrigued me since several of my friends have found themselves single and out in the dating world in their 40s. In all honesty, what my friends tell me makes me so grateful I’m married – speed dating, hookups, cat-fishing, ghosting and pics of body parts that just appear in my messages? Call me old fashioned but that sounds humiliating and unnecessary!

This new title is meant to help the newly single navigate the waters of online dating. The author didn’t date for four years after her marriage ended – she kept busy with her kids and career and she wasn’t ready. She noticed there wasn’t a lot of advice available for the over 40, Christian woman and decided, in the name of research, to sign up for 16 online dating sites and report on her experience.

She covers everything from figuring out what you’re looking for to writing a genuine bio to bouncing back from an unpleasant experience. Throughout the book, there are many reminders to be true to yourself and your spiritual life, and not to lose hope.

“At the beautiful age of sixty-five, writer Anne Lamont got married for the first time after meeting the man of her dreams on a dating site for adults over fifty.”

The author uses Anne as an example of someone who lived her life. She used her gifts. She spoke her truth. When asked what advice Anne would give to singles who are still waiting…

“If you’re paying attention and making your own life as beautiful and rich and fun as it can be, you might just attract someone who’s doing the same thing.”

Publisher Description:

Does the thought of joining a dating site invoke feelings of fear and anxiety—or, worse, insecurity or unworthiness? If so, then The Grown Woman’s Guide to Online Dating is the book for you. With practical advice about how these sites work, what to expect, and when to join and quit, along with proven tips for making the most of them, The Grown Woman’s Guide equips readers with all they need to take the plunge.

Four years after an unexpected divorce, bestselling writer and funny lady Margot Starbuck found herself venturing into the unknown waters of online dating. What she discovered surprised her—and changed her. With her signature sharp wit and a solid biblical foundation, Margot shares what she learned, including how to:

• determine which sites are best and what to expect;

• write a first message that is most likely to get a response;

• avoid common pitfalls in creating your profile; and

• live out the truth that you are God’s beloved.

So dive into embracing your true value and drawing closer to God even in the midst of fear and questions. Because whatever your endgame might be, richness awaits. Margot promises, “You got this, girl!”

Gives you concrete steps for dating well, from the beginning to the end, all while reminding you just how loved you already are.”—Chrystal Evans Hurst, bestselling author and speaker 

“With humor, wisdom, and practical answers, Margot’s heart and voice shine through this book, and I can’t wait to send it to my single friends!” —Bianca Juarez Olthoff, pastor, speaker, and author of the bestselling How to Have Your Life Not Suck

Purchase Links

Amazon | Thomas Nelson | Barnes & Noble

About the Author

Margot Starbuck is an award-winning, New York Times bestselling author, writing teacher, and speaker. She earned a masters of divinity from Princeton Theological Seminary and a bachelor’s from Westmont College. She lives in Durham, North Carolina, with her three fabulous teenagers, in a community built around friends with disabilities. Learn more at

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  1. I really, REALLY like your photo! Haha! Thank you for being on this tour! Sara @ TLC Book Tours


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